We all strive for our families’ well-being and happiness. However, there are times when we must prioritize our own needs. Betty, a 72-year-old widow, had been eagerly saving for a long-awaited trip. Her plans were upended when her grandson fell seriously ill, and her family requested the money she had set aside. Betty’s refusal to assist led to a dramatic conflict. She has now written to us seeking advice.
Here is Betty’s letter:
I’m a 72-year-old widow, and I’ve been saving up for years to go on a cruise trip with my sister.
Recently, my 8-year-old grandson got gravely ill. The treatments are costly, and they want me to contribute my savings. I said, “Sorry, but I will not sacrifice my happiness. I’m old, and this might be the last time trip that I could afford.” I was called a horrible mom, and my son declared, “From now on, you’re not allowed to ever see your grandkid.”
I was taken aback by his abrupt and harsh decision. But my son smirked and added, “This will be the last time you see me or my family. Hope your trip is truly worth it.”
Was my decision selfish? Am I not allowed to enjoy life a little with the money that I’ve been saving for years?
Your thoughts would be much appreciated.
Yours,
Betty
Open a dialogue with your son.
Approach your son with a calm and open heart, seeking to understand his perspective. Explain your feelings and the importance of the trip to you, but also listen to his concerns about his son’s health.
Acknowledge the emotional stress he is under and express your desire to find a compromise. Perhaps you can agree on contributing a smaller, more manageable amount to the treatment fund while still retaining enough for your cruise.
Seek mediation or counseling.
